The Erotic Nature Of Hetero-Male Lack

What I wanted to initiate yesterday was an inquiry surrounding lack and human sexuality. It struck me so deeply as I was standing there at the bar watching grown men hoot and holler, basically falling all over each other to get a closer look at some sizable knockers on display. I realized then that the erotic nature of what was taking place had to do with what was 'lacking' for each of those men personally. The distinct and peculiar otherness of a Woman's Breasts were fixing their gaze, captivating their attention, holding their awareness in a vise-like grip that they could neither shake themselves loose of... nor even appeared to want to shake loose of!

So the Breast is an Erotic Object for Hetero-Man because of its Otherness.

For Hetero-Man the Breast seems to be something that is paradoxically so close... yet so far away. It is both that which one is familiar with (the residue of childhood) as well as that which is so far removed. There is a longing there. Which I take to mean that Freud was at least partly right (true but partial once again) in indicating that there is a symbiosis between Breast and Child that becomes a sort of psychological stain or residue that compels the longing. For the Adult-Child now lacks the Breast that was once so comforting, so nourishing, so near and dear... if not also at times absent, therefore tending to become a 'hated-object,' ala Kleinian psychoanalysis.

I suspect that sizable Breasts also indicate an abundance of that proverbial milk and honey that has long been associated with the Promised Land. And that can also serve to create 'envy' in the Male of our Species. For even after the Child is out of the Womb, the Woman continues to bestow and bless the Child with Life via the Breast. This has been known to create more than a little animosity in more than one man: as the Man neither has the Life-Bestowing Breast to offer to the Child, nor does the Man have access to the Woman's Breast (his wife or lover) as an erotic object--because now the Breast is just a functional object for the Child's welfare and well-being.

So, the erotic element of the Breast is dissipated by the act of Breast-feeding (which I contend may be at least partly responsible for the American aversion to public displays of breast-feeding). Why such aversion though? Is it because America collectively (big generalization, I know) tends to not want to have the erotic element of the Breast eclipsed by the functional element.

Let me restate this differently, if only because I have the feeling that this is key: namely, that America(ns) tendency is to fixate on the erotic nature of the Breast as an object longed-for, which means that the functional nature of the Breast tends to appear as threatening to the erotic nature that America(ns) seems to collectively prefer. We don't want to see breast-feeding as a public display because it shatters the erotic projectons surrounding the Female Breast. It shatters our collective illusions about what Breasts are for.

The aversion to breast-feeding, then, on a collective level, is really a way to protect our fantasies of and about the Female Anatomy.