Recoil: Avoiding Relationship As Avoiding Work

The crazy wise adept who has gone by various names--from Bubba Free John to Avabhasa to Adi Da--has used as one of his primary points of inquiry the question 'Avoiding relationship?' According to Da there is an inherent self-contraction within the makeup of all sentient beings that conspire to having us literally recoil from relationship and relatedness as a 'fundamental fact.' In short, there is an ongoing, near total tendency to self-contract into a desire/instinct for separation.

Cutting ourselves off from others can take on many forms--from the grossest of murders to the subtlest of slights. Each form is a way of seeking to reinforce a sense of separateness from the world around one's self.

I bring Adi Da's inquiry up because I am wondering if there is a similar tendency that plays out with regards to work--as work is a form of relationship. Might lazy and apparent lethargy be the body-mind's instinctual tendency to recoil into self-contraction? Might we not want to 'show up' because we are contracting from relationship? Might there be certain meta-physical reasons like the aforementioned behind unemmployment and tardiness? Might we refuse to work because we are refusing to relate?

And if that is the case then why this 'self-contraction' on our part? And what if anything can we do about it---whether we are talking about work or intimacy, creating or loving? Why are we given to recoil so from the world around us?